This hit home for me on SO many fucking levels beautiful Grace 💐 You've put into words many a emotion I experience far too often for want of being seen, heard, or just even fucking acknowledged, because I genuinely want to connect with people! The lack of engagement on SOCIAL media platforms is actually infuriating, because why does it exist if not to "social"ise with the people you see there?! I also speak as someone who has their Chiron in Leo, which is "the wound of talent". It's a difficult one to navigate, because how much of the recognition we seek is purely for an ego boost and how much of it is to give us the boost we need so we can continue showing-up for others. It's a trapeze line we walk mon ami, but the fact that you are being so fucking real and brutally honest about it is actually gorgeous. Thank you for your truth xxx
Ah, to navigate “the wound of talent”. I hear you. Talent needs to be seen to be recognized. My most recent article lightly touches on the shame of seeking recognition and when it’s not given it’s experienced as rejection.
I think narcissism is such a widely discussed subject and one many have been on the wrong end of that relationship dynamic that it’s been confused with egoism. Ego is simply about how you value yourself and the ability to follow your own willpower. It’s not the evil it’s been made out to be. I hope these words can help you navigate your Chiron.
When I wrote this piece, I was questioning, do I keep showing up for others? Is it making a difference in anyone’s life? It wasn’t about seeking outside validation or for an ego boost. I’m certainly glad I wrote it because now I am having these deeper conversations and connections with others.
I have a similar trapeze line to walk. Mine is having a transpersonal life purpose that’s fulfilled through transformation and separation. I need others to fulfill my purpose. Great. 👍🏻 But do it alone 🥴🤨 a giant HUH!?!
I'm not sure if you will see my comments in the order I wrote them on the different things, but this post gave me context I didn't have initially and I think it's so brave that you wrote it.
I don't think your "rant" was a mistake, you expressed how you were feeling, in a moment of frustration. Maybe if you had hit pause instead of post, you might have decided to rewrite it, but it's so easy to act in the moment isn't it.
The fact that you wrote this to address it, and you allowed yourself to get so vulnerable and honest is amazing, like you say, so much of social media is only the side of a person that they want you to see, and while that's not neccessarily a lie, it's not the full story.
I feel lucky to have found so many authors here that don't sugarcoat life, that write about their struggles and hardships and are genuinely authentic with their readers. It makes it so much easier to relate. And if you relate to someone it's easier to find value.
Thank you for being your authentic self, even when it can erupt, it just proves your human, with flaws like the rest of us. Keep being you! I look forward to your return to posting.
“Just allowing yourself to be you is a rare skill” - is something that strikes at my very core. The irony of that when BE-ING should be easy not rare and difficult. That means on a global scale there is so much suffering.
Here’s to those of us willing to take off our masks, little by little. 👍🏻
Yes, I make the effort to respond to comments in the order I’ve received them.
I’m actually very grateful for my rant now.
1) I expressed my feelings something that I couldn’t do in my traumatic youth. This was self-validating. I’ve hidden behind the mask of “I’m fine” and didn’t allow others to see my pain and I am choosing to break that pattern. I know what it is to suffer in silence and in that post I was breaking my silence and hopefully inspiring others they can too.
2) that post has started the conversations I so desired and has connected me to “my tribe”. I have no regrets for posting my rant. I just felt the need to address my rant because I also felt it could convey a lack of appreciation for my readers new and old. I don’t take them for granted and am grateful for them. When I feel I may have potentially dismissed someone I own up to my mistakes and apologize and try not to repeat the same mistake.
I hope you will continue to share your thoughts and feelings with me in future posts.
Happy to be here, we all wear masks, sometimes, in certain cases all the time, the more we practice taking them off and being who we are the easier it gets. It's difficult to just be yourself all the time, even around the people who know you best, you think you have to be strong and silent or whatever characteristics for the situation, but just allowing you to be you is a rare skill.
I keep coming back to this, in one form or another, feeling like both my head and my heart are bursting with words, but they aren't showing up in the way I'd like them to - which probably simply means they're not as organized as I'd like them to be -
In a period of time when I'm paring back, and unsubscribing from anyone I havent read for awhile or dont look forward to reading, I've subscribed to you because I can feel all the way to the core of my core of my core that the words coming from you matter deeply for me.
I am 69 years old and between you and @AutisticAng - who you btw turned me on to - have been waking up to the high likelihood that I am autistic. Tears of recognition, of oh! that makes sense and so does that and so does that.
Unnerving and relieving all at once.
Anyway ... all this to say thank you for your voice. It matters to me. Thankyou.
I’m so sorry, I am only seeing your message to me now! I don’t know how I missed it.
I can completely relate to your 1st paragraph. I struggle with finding my words as well. Whether it’s an autistic thing or not, I’m not 100% sure. My true “voice” comes from my Sacral authority which doesn’t use words but sounds and it’s tapped into my intuition of the Splenic center which is a “knowing” without knowing the why I know things.
I have to slow down and allow more time for me to feel and hear my truth otherwise it’s just more condition BS that comes out of my mouth. I could say more about my Human Design but my point is, it’s ok to give yourself whatever time you need to allow yourself to come full circle, to experience yourself fully, and only speak when your truth is ready to be heard. Which also means it’s not just about right timing for you but with who?
I am deeply touched that my words are speaking to your core and that you have subscribe to my newsletter. I am honoured to have you here. Please let me know if there is a subject you would like me to write about. Or if you have questions about anything I have written about.
Yes, I understand that feeling “unnerving and relieving all at once”. Getting my diagnosis put my whole life into perspective. I wasn’t broken after all.
Welcome to My Space. I look forward to hearing from you again, whenever you’re ready.
Well, that was refreshing, Grace. It’s not common that people admit they want the feedback or thumbs up or hearts. Most people act as if they don’t care. To save face? 🤷♀️ We all need feedback if we’re to be inspired to keep sharing ourselves. In any arena. Human nature says we need to be valued. If you value what I’m saying, please tell me! I know when I compliment someone in the grocery store, they ride that compliment all day. I see them walk a little lighter, with a little more confidence. Tell me how I’m doing. Yes. We all need that. Naturally. Innately.
But
If you don’t get it as you crave or want right now, please keep writing anyway. If for no one else, than for yourself. You’re good. You have talent. You need to do this. You have stuff to say and please don’t let a lack of “hearting” quench that fire. You have to know that even though you may never get to know who or how, you ArE touching souls. You may even save a life. It just may not be for you to know. 🤷♀️ Keep writing anyway.
Thanks Carol for this heart warming reminder. It is something I need to remember. We rarely know how we impact others and I am taking your words to heart ❤️. Thank you 🙏🏻
I know the work I do is done with great intention and sensitivity and beyond that I am still learning to surrender and hold Faith.
Grace...I see YOU, I hear YOU, and I feel YOU! Thank you so much for authentic post, it touched me deeply.
BTW Often times I don't comment on posts because the writer has said it better than I ever could. Kinda like you just did. I do get a lot of strength from people who write from the heart about their journey - like you. Happy holidays!
It’s how we build connections and online communities. A simple thank you, I needed to hear that today or that resonated with me or even just a like ❤️ offers us writers an acknowledgment that we’ve reached someone.
So, thank you for seeing me, hearing me and feeling me. That gives me the strength to keep writing.
Hi Andrew. Thank you for sharing your experience with your newsletter. It gives me perspective - a reality check if you will. Knowing you the way I do, I’m surprised that people don’t show more gratitude towards you. You have a rare gift.
Greed comes in many forms, I guess. People get what they want without any consideration for reciprocity.
But that’s where Karma rebalances the cosmos.
I wish you many blessings this holiday period too and for the new year.
BTW I want to buy a copy of your book next time I see you. I love the excerpts you share on FB.
Yes, I was feeling embarrassed with my first post. (I’m allowing myself to feel my feelings and letting go of judging them.)
The thing with self-acceptance is the willingness to accept even those parts of yourself that makes you uncomfortable.
In my first post, me saying, “I’m hurting” was the same as saying, “I’m not ok” and that’s a really difficult thing to admit to yourself or with others. But I posted it anyway because it was part of that self acceptance process.
Once I had time to integrate my feelings, I was no longer embarrassed and more importantly I saw how it served others. So that’s why, in part, I posted it again.
I also felt I owed my long time supporters an apology for my rant. I take responsibility for my behaviour and as an empath, I don’t want to disrespect others, even if unintentional.
This hit home for me on SO many fucking levels beautiful Grace 💐 You've put into words many a emotion I experience far too often for want of being seen, heard, or just even fucking acknowledged, because I genuinely want to connect with people! The lack of engagement on SOCIAL media platforms is actually infuriating, because why does it exist if not to "social"ise with the people you see there?! I also speak as someone who has their Chiron in Leo, which is "the wound of talent". It's a difficult one to navigate, because how much of the recognition we seek is purely for an ego boost and how much of it is to give us the boost we need so we can continue showing-up for others. It's a trapeze line we walk mon ami, but the fact that you are being so fucking real and brutally honest about it is actually gorgeous. Thank you for your truth xxx
Thank you Mon ami, I deeply feel you.
Ah, to navigate “the wound of talent”. I hear you. Talent needs to be seen to be recognized. My most recent article lightly touches on the shame of seeking recognition and when it’s not given it’s experienced as rejection.
I think narcissism is such a widely discussed subject and one many have been on the wrong end of that relationship dynamic that it’s been confused with egoism. Ego is simply about how you value yourself and the ability to follow your own willpower. It’s not the evil it’s been made out to be. I hope these words can help you navigate your Chiron.
When I wrote this piece, I was questioning, do I keep showing up for others? Is it making a difference in anyone’s life? It wasn’t about seeking outside validation or for an ego boost. I’m certainly glad I wrote it because now I am having these deeper conversations and connections with others.
I have a similar trapeze line to walk. Mine is having a transpersonal life purpose that’s fulfilled through transformation and separation. I need others to fulfill my purpose. Great. 👍🏻 But do it alone 🥴🤨 a giant HUH!?!
I'm not sure if you will see my comments in the order I wrote them on the different things, but this post gave me context I didn't have initially and I think it's so brave that you wrote it.
I don't think your "rant" was a mistake, you expressed how you were feeling, in a moment of frustration. Maybe if you had hit pause instead of post, you might have decided to rewrite it, but it's so easy to act in the moment isn't it.
The fact that you wrote this to address it, and you allowed yourself to get so vulnerable and honest is amazing, like you say, so much of social media is only the side of a person that they want you to see, and while that's not neccessarily a lie, it's not the full story.
I feel lucky to have found so many authors here that don't sugarcoat life, that write about their struggles and hardships and are genuinely authentic with their readers. It makes it so much easier to relate. And if you relate to someone it's easier to find value.
Thank you for being your authentic self, even when it can erupt, it just proves your human, with flaws like the rest of us. Keep being you! I look forward to your return to posting.
I agree with your comments.
“Just allowing yourself to be you is a rare skill” - is something that strikes at my very core. The irony of that when BE-ING should be easy not rare and difficult. That means on a global scale there is so much suffering.
Here’s to those of us willing to take off our masks, little by little. 👍🏻
Thanks again for your comments. 🙏🏻❤️
Little by little!
Thanks, Mark. 🙏🏻❤️
Yes, I make the effort to respond to comments in the order I’ve received them.
I’m actually very grateful for my rant now.
1) I expressed my feelings something that I couldn’t do in my traumatic youth. This was self-validating. I’ve hidden behind the mask of “I’m fine” and didn’t allow others to see my pain and I am choosing to break that pattern. I know what it is to suffer in silence and in that post I was breaking my silence and hopefully inspiring others they can too.
2) that post has started the conversations I so desired and has connected me to “my tribe”. I have no regrets for posting my rant. I just felt the need to address my rant because I also felt it could convey a lack of appreciation for my readers new and old. I don’t take them for granted and am grateful for them. When I feel I may have potentially dismissed someone I own up to my mistakes and apologize and try not to repeat the same mistake.
I hope you will continue to share your thoughts and feelings with me in future posts.
Thanks for joining the conversation.
Happy to be here, we all wear masks, sometimes, in certain cases all the time, the more we practice taking them off and being who we are the easier it gets. It's difficult to just be yourself all the time, even around the people who know you best, you think you have to be strong and silent or whatever characteristics for the situation, but just allowing you to be you is a rare skill.
I keep coming back to this, in one form or another, feeling like both my head and my heart are bursting with words, but they aren't showing up in the way I'd like them to - which probably simply means they're not as organized as I'd like them to be -
In a period of time when I'm paring back, and unsubscribing from anyone I havent read for awhile or dont look forward to reading, I've subscribed to you because I can feel all the way to the core of my core of my core that the words coming from you matter deeply for me.
I am 69 years old and between you and @AutisticAng - who you btw turned me on to - have been waking up to the high likelihood that I am autistic. Tears of recognition, of oh! that makes sense and so does that and so does that.
Unnerving and relieving all at once.
Anyway ... all this to say thank you for your voice. It matters to me. Thankyou.
I’m so sorry, I am only seeing your message to me now! I don’t know how I missed it.
I can completely relate to your 1st paragraph. I struggle with finding my words as well. Whether it’s an autistic thing or not, I’m not 100% sure. My true “voice” comes from my Sacral authority which doesn’t use words but sounds and it’s tapped into my intuition of the Splenic center which is a “knowing” without knowing the why I know things.
I have to slow down and allow more time for me to feel and hear my truth otherwise it’s just more condition BS that comes out of my mouth. I could say more about my Human Design but my point is, it’s ok to give yourself whatever time you need to allow yourself to come full circle, to experience yourself fully, and only speak when your truth is ready to be heard. Which also means it’s not just about right timing for you but with who?
I am deeply touched that my words are speaking to your core and that you have subscribe to my newsletter. I am honoured to have you here. Please let me know if there is a subject you would like me to write about. Or if you have questions about anything I have written about.
Yes, I understand that feeling “unnerving and relieving all at once”. Getting my diagnosis put my whole life into perspective. I wasn’t broken after all.
Welcome to My Space. I look forward to hearing from you again, whenever you’re ready.
Happy holidays to you.
🫶🏻🕊️
Thank you ~
Well, that was refreshing, Grace. It’s not common that people admit they want the feedback or thumbs up or hearts. Most people act as if they don’t care. To save face? 🤷♀️ We all need feedback if we’re to be inspired to keep sharing ourselves. In any arena. Human nature says we need to be valued. If you value what I’m saying, please tell me! I know when I compliment someone in the grocery store, they ride that compliment all day. I see them walk a little lighter, with a little more confidence. Tell me how I’m doing. Yes. We all need that. Naturally. Innately.
But
If you don’t get it as you crave or want right now, please keep writing anyway. If for no one else, than for yourself. You’re good. You have talent. You need to do this. You have stuff to say and please don’t let a lack of “hearting” quench that fire. You have to know that even though you may never get to know who or how, you ArE touching souls. You may even save a life. It just may not be for you to know. 🤷♀️ Keep writing anyway.
Thanks Carol for this heart warming reminder. It is something I need to remember. We rarely know how we impact others and I am taking your words to heart ❤️. Thank you 🙏🏻
I know the work I do is done with great intention and sensitivity and beyond that I am still learning to surrender and hold Faith.
Thank you for your support!
Peace 🕊️ be with you
Sure Grace, I always have copies with me. Just let me know next time you're in town.
Wishing you a very Happy Festive season and a fantastic New Year!!
Love & blessings,
Andrew
Ok. Will do 👍🏻
And same to you 🫶🏻🕊️🕉️
Grace...I see YOU, I hear YOU, and I feel YOU! Thank you so much for authentic post, it touched me deeply.
BTW Often times I don't comment on posts because the writer has said it better than I ever could. Kinda like you just did. I do get a lot of strength from people who write from the heart about their journey - like you. Happy holidays!
Thank you for commenting this time!
Your voice is no less important than mine.
It’s how we build connections and online communities. A simple thank you, I needed to hear that today or that resonated with me or even just a like ❤️ offers us writers an acknowledgment that we’ve reached someone.
So, thank you for seeing me, hearing me and feeling me. That gives me the strength to keep writing.
Happy holidays to you as well.
Hi Grace, I hope you have a nice break & enjoyable festive season leading up to the New Year.
I send out a very brief monthly newsletter (to over 400 people) and am lucky if I get one response (usually from the same person). 🤔
Hi Andrew. Thank you for sharing your experience with your newsletter. It gives me perspective - a reality check if you will. Knowing you the way I do, I’m surprised that people don’t show more gratitude towards you. You have a rare gift.
Greed comes in many forms, I guess. People get what they want without any consideration for reciprocity.
But that’s where Karma rebalances the cosmos.
I wish you many blessings this holiday period too and for the new year.
BTW I want to buy a copy of your book next time I see you. I love the excerpts you share on FB.
Namaste
🫂🫶🏻
I love it all but I am wondering why, if you were so eekily embarrassed by the first rant, why would you post it again? I’m just confused.
That’s a valid question.
Yes, I was feeling embarrassed with my first post. (I’m allowing myself to feel my feelings and letting go of judging them.)
The thing with self-acceptance is the willingness to accept even those parts of yourself that makes you uncomfortable.
In my first post, me saying, “I’m hurting” was the same as saying, “I’m not ok” and that’s a really difficult thing to admit to yourself or with others. But I posted it anyway because it was part of that self acceptance process.
Once I had time to integrate my feelings, I was no longer embarrassed and more importantly I saw how it served others. So that’s why, in part, I posted it again.
I also felt I owed my long time supporters an apology for my rant. I take responsibility for my behaviour and as an empath, I don’t want to disrespect others, even if unintentional.
Thanks for your question. 🙏🏻🫶🏻
Thank you for the reply.
You’re welcome 🙏🏻